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I finally petitioned, have some questions though.

MarkR

MarkR

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Tyler Atkinson said:
If you were established financially and are of good moral character, you should be fine! How does your wife feel about it if you don't mind me asking? It's taken almost a year for my wife to want to go to the family night dinner with me lol. I guess she really didn't understand or want to find out what it really was about.
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My wife has never participated in any Masonic activity. She's not opposed to it, just doesn't care. She told me "I don't drag you to my quilting stuff, don't expect me to go to your Masonic stuff."
 
Tyler Atkinson

Tyler Atkinson

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Yes! The first lodge I ever petitioned didnt accept me simply because I lived in the county less than a year but my current lodge accepted me, also being out of my residing county. So it's really based on the lodge as is everything else.
 
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Stanley Pines

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Thanks for the replies. I am able to afford it based on the list of dues and other fees that was given to me. Finances is really not an issue. My park's community building does have plenty of privacy and, it being the slow season in the park, not many people use it. I just didn't know if it was usually required that the investigation team be able to meet in your home and tour it. I don't mind them coming in, it just is not a large area to meet with someone. I can understand that it depends on the lodge.
 
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Stanley Pines

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As far as my wife...I am just going to say she is not as excited about it as I am. She actually has a great grandfather who was a freemason and the family has never spoken ill of the fraternity. However all it took was for her to do a quick search about freemasonry online to get the wrong idea. I have finally convinced her that freemasons don't worship satan (Y'all dont right?! LOL), there won't be any strippers, sacrificing of virgins, etc. I think the biggest thing for her is the time commitment. She knows I will have to attend the meetings, study and meet with my mentor, help out at fundraisers, etc. I think she has found a few websites full of supposed wives complaining that they never see their husbands or that freemasonry caused them to get a divorce.
My plan is to bring her to the next dinner so she can meet some of the brothers, their wives, and kids. I think that will help her relax a little more. Also then she can talk to some of the wives and get a feel for things.

And to answer some of the other questions- I have established legal residency in my state. I have been in the state for 7 years and in my current county 2 1/2 years. My wife pretty much works and then is home the rest of the time so I am trying to help her find something she might be interested in. I think that will help too.
 
Ripcord22A

Ripcord22A

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Time commitment is how much u want to put in it. Meetings are once a month, if your an officer then theres a bit more. I wasnt an officer but i helped when i could at my last lodge in new mexcio amd i usually took my wife and/or kids to all the functions...even if we were just parking cars, my daughter enjoyed handing out the tickets and my son loved riding his skateboard to guide the cars to their spot.....

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Bloke

Bloke

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Brother JC said:
If my wife trusted the internet more than me there would be a whole other discussion going on...
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Therein lies the crux of a lot of problems I read about. The problem for a candidate, is he has no direct experience to apply to the discussion, unless he has a close friend or family member who is already a member... You can solve the problem easily by just promising your wife that if you see anything in the ceremonies which looks satanic or evil, you'll quit. Solves the problem. I made myself the same promise, and I've been a Freemason for 14 years and have led lodges three times as the WM.
 
Warrior1256

Warrior1256

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Stanley Pines said:
I just wanted to update everyone. I petitioned and was accepted in August. I was initiated in the EA degree this past Monday. What a great experience! I tried to pay attention to everything said and done during but may have missed one or two things. :) Thanks for everyone's support.
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Congratulations Brother! I am very happy for you.
 
SCStrong

SCStrong

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Good luck and best wishes - just go with it ......... don't try to study anything beforehand. Just let it happen organically.... as to the degree work - don't sweat it - millions of men have gone before you and done it - so can you. BTW - Thanks for your service ........ Ft. Benning - That brings back some memories - Sand Hill, the Darby Queen, ....... abandon hope all ye who enter here - ha ha
 
Andy Fracica

Andy Fracica

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Stanley Pines said:
I just wanted to update everyone. I petitioned and was accepted in August. I was initiated in the EA degree this past Monday. What a great experience! I tried to pay attention to everything said and done during but may have missed one or two things. :) Thanks for everyone's support.
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Congratulations Brother! You will enjoy the journey. Make it your plan to be active in the lodge and serve wherever needed.
 
HoldenMonty

HoldenMonty

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Stanley Pines said:
I tried to pay attention to everything said and done during but may have missed one or two things.
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Don't worry I don't think anybody catches everything as they are going through it. I know I sure didn't it was mainly a blur going through it and just trying to make sure you didn't mess up. But when you get to watch them is when I have learned and working to learn the different chairs. I was going to be the junior master of ceremonies but was also learning the guide's part for the first degree and ended up being the guide for our lodge's candidate on Tuesday night. Now I'm working on learning the guide's part for the second degree for when he gets his second.
 
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