Really? So if the nicest guy in town beats his family behind closed doors, it doesn’t mean anything? His character stands in your eyes? Wow...
Abusers are extremely secretive. If my ex-wife had not drunk dialed my family to apologize for beating me, they would not have found out until I called them with my new address when I escaped. Back then only a few of the Brothers at lodge knew what I was going through. They helped me prepare to escape and when the time came they helped me move out. Most of my ex's friends to this day think she's the nicest party girl in town. hey have no idea what happens behind closed doors.
I can't see how one could think that ...... The statement totally encapsulates what character is. Just curious - are you a Mason? Brother, sorry to hear of your experience. Glad you escaped. Best of luck going forward.
Yes I am a mason and really you think that is the measure of a man? What he does when no ones around? What he does in public is less than his other works? Hypothetically Gahndi for example amazing things but was awful to his wife and MLK would habitually cheat on his wife. The meme is very simplistic and a life spent trying to improve oneself can’t be summarised in a quip. In my opinion Look into those examples for yourself as I’m no historian and there is a bit of controversy around them how true they are I have no idea but good food for thought.
Now decades ago. Long enough ago that I evangelize abuse victims to escape as a way to repay those who helped me in my time of need back then.
@David612 Given your hypothetical scenarios my opinion of those men would drop quickly. Sure, they did good, but their character would be forever tarnished in my eyes. Andrew Jackson is a good example.
Thing is from what I have read the above is true but again I haven’t studied it hard enough to be 100% confident saying its fact, my point is that what makes a man is not what he does in private but rather it’s the sum of his actions in all arenas, no man is flawless but a mason should try to be.
Jackson’s actually a poor example as his crimes against humanity are well documented. Let us say that a man of a duplicitous nature is probably of lower character overall.
I would say character can change gradually over time and experience, it’s a persistent mindset and this can’t come from an external source.