I guess I'm lucky in that I've gotten lots of people approach me and whatnot, both PH and non. Had fellas come up to me and give me the grip out of the blue before too. Maybe it is because I'm a little older (38)? Or maybe its the beard or what have you.
Or the shirt I wear that says "Ask me about free beer!" :thumbup1:
I guess I see things from the perspective I did when I was single and at the dance halls every night. I never had any trouble finding a partner for every song, because I had no fear of rejection. If the pretty lady I asked said no, I just said "thanks anyway, Ma'am", and went on to the next lady. Even if I got two nos for every yes I still got a yes right quick. Then later that night I'd ask one of the nos again, thinking that hey, they've seen I know how to dance by now, maybe they changed their minds - and usually they'd say yes.
One of these times google the Myers Briggs personality test. Its Jungian influenced stuff, and by no means definitive - but take a sample test somewhere on the internet. I'm an ENFP, according to a bunch of samples in different workplaces I've taken - which means I'm outgoing and so forth and so on. Others are by nature different. I think its sort of important to understand the different personality types (either the Myers Briggs way or one of the various others) because its interesting for one, and because it helps you to understand other people's motivations and the way they see the world.
A simpler way to put it - a person who is upbeat, warm, and so forth just has to shrug off the sour pusses. They'll either come along for the ride or they won't, and sometimes they are shy and have to observe you a while and then they jump on board your way of seeing things. Thats a simple way of saying a lot of the introverts follow the extroverts, if you have the sensitivity to understand their way of seeing things and not to be too torn up about their way of doing things, and have the patience to let them come around.
