Should i become WM?

Discussion in 'Your Masonic Story' started by vangoedenaam, Jul 2, 2016.

  1. vangoedenaam

    vangoedenaam Premium Member

    181
    54
    48
    Dear Brethren,

    My lodge has had severe issues for the last years. Groups of brethren opposing eachother and quite a large group making the work of the WM hard. I was SW and did my best to never become part of any side. Part of the time, i was absent. Ive gone through a time of burn-out and related personal troubles, im on my way back.

    Now the question has been raised wether i would be willing to be WM for the lodge. Im struggling with it. (We dont have progressive lines, so its not automatic)

    I am still finding my strength back, slowly, so this comes just a bit too soon, i fear.
    There arent that many other brethren left that could be a WM for all brethren rather than have this group thing clinging to them (or are willing to do it)
    I am good at being a moderator, keeping harmony, being a brother for all.
    I fear the amount of time and effort it will take is more than i could fit in my life. (Wife, kids, job)
    I dont want to slow down my recovery or even fall again
    I know some brethren are willing to help, but not sure if its enough.
    I dont really want to be WM in times of trouble, and there isnt a guarantee the trouble will end when i sit in the east.
    Im just so unsure.

    Should i?
     
  2. JamestheJust

    JamestheJust Registered User

    1,235
    313
    83
    If I were in your position I would talk to the leading members of the factions to see if there were prospects for some sort of truce. If I did not get strong indications of cooperation from the factions I would not be inclined to nominate for WM.
     
    BullDozer Harrell and SimonM like this.
  3. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

    4,010
    1,422
    183
    In your place I would pass it up this year simply because of concern number 4 on the list. Family and employment come first. jmho.
     
    Lufpihsrow and BullDozer Harrell like this.
  4. chrmc

    chrmc Registered User

    526
    150
    43
    Do you want to? If you really don't, but just do it for the good of the lodge, it'll not be a success. If you have the desire it's a good step to start considering all the other things that you list. But desire has to be there as the first part.
     
  5. BullDozer Harrell

    BullDozer Harrell Registered User

    223
    222
    43
    If you haven't been active in lodge affairs for awhile then you're out of the loop.
    Your ascension to the East would not heal your lodge.
    In fact, it would only cause you undue stress and hardly give you motivation to complete your tenure.

    Wait!

    Sent from my SM-N910P using My Freemasonry Pro mobile app
     
  6. vangoedenaam

    vangoedenaam Premium Member

    181
    54
    48
    Well, i am very happy some of you actually responded with advice.

    The point that hits home is: do you want to. And my answer is a definite yes. It would be best if i had 6 months more time to get fully ready, but i want to, sure!

    I havent been out of the loop, but i missed a number of meetings. I have made all but one ritual.

    I think i can be accepted in the position by a large majority of brethren, but its definitely good advise to talk to 'faction leaders' .

    Thanks for making me think.
     
    Lufpihsrow likes this.
  7. dfreybur

    dfreybur Premium Member

    3,305
    1,571
    133
    Then go for it. I have seen one Brother step up and revive a sick lodge by good leadership in the East.
     
  8. Cortland Campbell

    Cortland Campbell Registered User

    1
    0
    1
    Sounds like you already have your mind made up. You don't seem confident and that will only affect the Lodge negatively.
     
  9. BullDozer Harrell

    BullDozer Harrell Registered User

    223
    222
    43
  10. rpbrown

    rpbrown Premium Member

    343
    134
    63
    I think that all who's 1st time in the East has apprehension. Lord knows I did. I too have a family and not just a job, but I own my business so I know what the time constraints can be. However, in Masonry as in life, you must set a time aside for yourself. That's what my time at lodge is for me, time for myself. As for the times of trouble, be a good leader as well as the good moderator. You will have the gavel. It will be up to you to drive the ship so to speak.
    That leaves the last question, do you want to? If the answer is yes, and you feel you may can make a difference, then by all means accept it. You never know, you may be just what your lodge needs to come together.
     
    Bill Lins and Bloke like this.
  11. Garrettsdaddy

    Garrettsdaddy Rev. Scott Kerschner PM Premium Member

    24
    10
    23
    Becoming Master of a lodge can be much like parenting a bunch of children. There are some who can do the work needed with no asking. There are some who need to be guided in a positive direction. Then there are some who need a stern voice to direct them. If you can't wear those 3 hats the East will wear you down fast. In most lodges you will always have nay-sayers, your goal is to figure out a way,to make your goals for the lodge their idea.
     
    TMcgee and Bloke like this.
  12. Bloke

    Bloke Premium Member

    2,530
    1,588
    133
    Heheheehe... sounds like you have done this before :)
     
    ugurano and Bill Lins like this.
  13. Bloke

    Bloke Premium Member

    2,530
    1,588
    133
    We often say it is like hearding cats at my mother lodge..... the trick is learn how to (metaphorically) shake the food bowl so they all come running. Mine you, beer and food is a good way to get them in the same spot :)
     
    Lufpihsrow and Bill Lins like this.
  14. vangoedenaam

    vangoedenaam Premium Member

    181
    54
    48
    Im good at making it about them, not me. Organizing fun things, good quality ritual and interesting lectures.

    Thanks for all the advice and keep it coming ;)
     
    Bloke and Bill Lins like this.
  15. Damian Avinger

    Damian Avinger Registered User

    12
    10
    3
    I know exactly how you feel. I am in that position now. If you are ready to endure the mental and emotional strain needed to rebuild the morale of your lodge then wait. There are days I am frustrated but I understood that taking on the challenge. Do some soul searching and maybe have a chat with your wife about your feeling and go from there.
     
  16. vangoedenaam

    vangoedenaam Premium Member

    181
    54
    48
    Its happening. Ive been elected to be the next WM in December and will be installed feb21. Already doing most of the work.

    Some of the brethren that were part of the problems left, the remaining group mostly wants to rebuild and enjoy masonry again. Wounds heal slowly, but there is a foundation to build upon. Im ready (i think). Its going to be an intense two year period. Its a mix of fear and fun feelings.


    Sent from my iPhone using My Freemasonry
     
    Bloke, Warrior1256, MWS and 1 other person like this.
  17. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

    4,010
    1,422
    183
    Great! Best of luck and please keep us posted.
     
  18. vangoedenaam

    vangoedenaam Premium Member

    181
    54
    48
    Yesterday evening, i was installed as the WM of my lodge for a two year term. Ask me in two years. I'll be able to tell you how i shouldve done things.


    Sent from my iPhone using My Freemasonry
     
    Bill Lins and Warrior1256 like this.
  19. Ripcord22A

    Ripcord22A Site Benefactor

    2,503
    1,333
    183
  20. Bloke

    Bloke Premium Member

    2,530
    1,588
    133
    Congratulations brother, i pray you and your lodge enjoy your term and I hope you pass your lodge in a better state to a well trained and prepared successor. That's the mission statement :)
     
    Bill Lins and vangoedenaam like this.

Share My Freemasonry