Winter, I understand your reasoning and appreciate your courteous and well thought out reply. However, the situation in Arkansas is unique. We are a small state, population wise. The power mongers in Masonry, as I understand it, all live in or near Little Rock and see each other in person frequently. From my home, near the Missouri border, it is a 3 1/2 hour drive to GL. Not likely, I, and many others near state lines, are going to meet for coffee on a daily basis with the close-minded central bunch. A U.S. GL would have a more geographically diverse bunch and such influences as we have in Arkansas would be highly unlikely. BTW, tonight my Lodge in Missouri (Robert Burns 496) will be hosting the Missouri WGM, the Arkansas WGM and the WGM of Missouri Prince Hall. It will be an historic gathering, especially notable since our Lodge is small and rural. It is my understanding the current Arkansas WGM is attempting to heal the hurts caused in recent years over the rift with Shrine. I look forward to meeting him and hope he speaks to this issue.
I don't think your situation is all that unique actually. The Brothers that inevitably gravitate to the positions of power are usually from the larger urban lodges instead of the small rural ones. The four lodges that formed the first grand lodge were in London, not Nob End in South Lancashire. Urban centers are always the ones that end up imposing their will on the rural ones.
I am glad to hear the new MWGM there is trying to make things better. Though as far as I am concerned, I will be happier when the Shrine is a separate organization and no longer part of Freemasonry.