jwardl
Registered User
Last week during a larger personal discussion, the lady I'd dreamed of having a future with brought up the issue of our "secrets." Her main points were:
a) mates should have NO secrets between them, period, and
b) anything good should be able to bear the light of day, and be open to all
She's not one of those wackos who's convinced we're doing something dark or sinister, but said that if we're not, why not change things and eliminate the secrecy? I explained that it's tradition, is a token of our integrity, AND that they concern only the details of our degrees and modes of recognition -- but it IS a good question.
I don't personally see the problem; if my mate joined the OES or any other order, keeping their secrets wouldn't bother me in the least so long as I trusted her -- especially after it was explained what it was all about. It's not the same thing as keeping personal secrets between partners. In my situation, I think personal trust is the real issue... but regardless, what do you guys think about the reasons for the secrets, their value/appropriateness, perceptions by loved ones, etc? What experiences have you had? Would love to hear any comments.
a) mates should have NO secrets between them, period, and
b) anything good should be able to bear the light of day, and be open to all
She's not one of those wackos who's convinced we're doing something dark or sinister, but said that if we're not, why not change things and eliminate the secrecy? I explained that it's tradition, is a token of our integrity, AND that they concern only the details of our degrees and modes of recognition -- but it IS a good question.
I don't personally see the problem; if my mate joined the OES or any other order, keeping their secrets wouldn't bother me in the least so long as I trusted her -- especially after it was explained what it was all about. It's not the same thing as keeping personal secrets between partners. In my situation, I think personal trust is the real issue... but regardless, what do you guys think about the reasons for the secrets, their value/appropriateness, perceptions by loved ones, etc? What experiences have you had? Would love to hear any comments.
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