Mason dating another masons widow

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  1. brother josh

    brother josh Registered User

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    How would u feel Ive had some say they would rather the widow be in care of a brother others say ummmm nope won't do it ......... Thoughts ????


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  2. Glen Cook

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    I would say it's absolutely none of my concern.
     
  3. nixxon2000

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    Agreed. As long as she's happy.


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  4. jjjjjggggg

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    According to our obligations if such a relationship is within honorable bounds then there is no issue. A mason who exploits her would be committing a masonic offense. It would be a matter of intent.

    It would be no different than if a young mason dated the daughter of an older brother mason who took no issue with the coupling. Again I think the crux would be the intent to exploit (i.e. a mason committing adultery with a brother mason's wife).


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  5. Brother JC

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    It's the widow's decision, not mine. I have no say in the matter.
     
  6. goomba

    goomba Neo-Antient Site Benefactor

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    I can think of no better person to be my widow's companion than a trusted brother.

    My wife is the granddaughter of a brother mason. We were married before I was initiated. I hope it comforts him that his brother is taking care of his granddaughter.
     
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  7. BroBook

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    Since she is a widow and they are "dating" marriage should be the conclusion of the matter!


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  8. dfreybur

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    There's an important word in my obligation that describes whether an action is appropriate or not. A different word is used jurisdiction to jurisdiction but the word used always means that. "Dating" suggests voluntary on both sides and thus appropriate.
     
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  9. BroBook

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    Yes in mine it's V.... The C....!!!WWEA


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  10. Warrior1256

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    Absolutely right.
     
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  11. Rick Carver

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    Unless it is my widow, I don't think I have any interest in the matter.
     
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  12. dfreybur

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    If it is my widow, I figure my perspective on the matter would be a bit less secular more spiritual about it. ;^)
     
  13. Glen Cook

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    And absent the odd rattling of ghostly chains, your input would be rather limited as well.
     
  14. Levelhead

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    If the mason was dating a widow of a mason whom he never met i dont see why not.

    But if its a widow of a mason he sat in lodge with, well thats just disrespectful. But to each his own.
     
  15. coachn

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    Please explain your opinion.
     
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  16. Levelhead

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    If it was me and i knew it to be his wife at the time i would feel like i was disrespecting him.

    If its a woman whom i never met nor known her husband to have been a mason i see it as "i had no idea"

    Same thing as dating a dead friends ex wife. It just dont sit right.

    Hope that helps!

    Im happily married so i hopefully will never be in that situation.
     
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  17. okielabrat

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    No violation of our Master Mason obligation, as long as both parties are currently unattached. They're human beings, as well as consenting adults, so I say whatever works for them. As for those who may be a bit upset that their dead brother Mason's widow is seeing another brother Mason, that is something for those brothers to deal with, and hopefully they will.
     
  18. Bill Lins

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    If it should happen to you, hopefully she won't tell you that her previous mate was a better ritualist than are you. :D
     
  19. darsehole

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    Better she marry a Mason, than a member of the Elks, Lions, or Moose.

    Those guys are animals...


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  20. Warrior1256

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    Oooooooohh!
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