hanzosbm
Premium Member
First and foremost, regarding your anxiety, I can relate, though only in a very minor sense. I know how controlling it can be as well as how infuriating it can be for those without experience to tell you to 'just do it' or 'just get over it'. You mentioned being at the mercy of circumstances and while I see what you mean, I would offer that the end results don't matter, only what is in your heart, so while the circumstances (anxiety or otherwise) may stack the deck against you more than others, and you may see this as unfair, what really matters is what you are able to do with the situation you find yourself in. And in that regard, you have an infinite amount of free will. As the old expression goes, you ALWAYS have a choice. That choice might be small, it might also be extremely difficult, but it is there for you.
You'll likely never be fully free from the social anxiety, but don't look at the choice as whether to conquer the world today or give up. Instead, look at the small choices. You have the choice to get out of bed in the morning or not. Choose the right one. Then you have the choice to shower and get dressed for work, or not. Choose the right one. Then you have the choice to drive to work today, or not. Choose the right one. It's a constant battle, but in my opinion, our success or failure isn't based on where we end up, but rather, how often we made the right choice, regardless of how big of a choice that was. I hope that at some point, the small choices become easier and make way for the bigger choices. I also hope that at some point, one of those choices is whether or not to speak with someone who might be able to help your anxiety issues, and when that day comes, I hope you choose the right one.
What if I told you that the two could not be separated?
You'll likely never be fully free from the social anxiety, but don't look at the choice as whether to conquer the world today or give up. Instead, look at the small choices. You have the choice to get out of bed in the morning or not. Choose the right one. Then you have the choice to shower and get dressed for work, or not. Choose the right one. Then you have the choice to drive to work today, or not. Choose the right one. It's a constant battle, but in my opinion, our success or failure isn't based on where we end up, but rather, how often we made the right choice, regardless of how big of a choice that was. I hope that at some point, the small choices become easier and make way for the bigger choices. I also hope that at some point, one of those choices is whether or not to speak with someone who might be able to help your anxiety issues, and when that day comes, I hope you choose the right one.
I don't do bad things because I'm aware - not through my will but by chance - of what they lead to. It could be said that selfless acts are done on a selfish basis, which may be true, but I see no problem with this. The ends can sometimes justify the means.
What if I told you that the two could not be separated?