As others have said, what happens in a bedroom between two consenting adults is their business
I could see issues if a gay male couple were to belong to the same lodge. I am not for or against gay men being freemasons. I am pretty sure gay men have secretly been members for quite awhile anyway.
I know members who are "out" and "in the closet". I see that as their decision but most gay freemasons I know are cautious about causing any problems for others because of their sexuality and because of others prejudices or insecurities.
I'm in regular craft lodges with gay men. I support these men and they make great contributions, one is a senior Grand Officer who has worked in Grand Teams. In one "progressive" lodge I am in, a bro brought his male partner to a weekend away after encouragement from the WM (me) and Sec. Probably only 10-20% of our members knew he was gay. Being full of generally tolerant men, and with even more members who were beyond tolerance and actually fully accepting, it was no issue. I was Master at the time and encouraged him to do as he see fit, and he decided to bring his partner along - it was simply no big deal for other members. His decision cause no problem, and he made it with the wisdom of a PM and experienced and good mason.
In an regular lodge, one would expect an absence of any tension between partners. It's one of the things I like about the fraternity. Some couples might be fine in lodges, but a couple at odds, or who favour each other above others might have a potential to cause problems and I sometimes wonder about that- but I also tell myself that's
a fear rather than a reality and as a Freemason I should control my passions and prejudices (both emotions) and as fear is one of those emotions, I need to put that fear aside.
At the end of the day its about the character of the members and its a "cross that bridge if I ever find it" plan for me... also knowing that we've got a couple of heterosexual friends in our lodge who act like old married couples viz Howard and Raj in the TV show the big bang theory... whether a bro favours or conflicts with another normally stands outside sexuality and if sexuality falls into the mix, then like any other issue, one should act in congruence with the values of the Craft and good leadership and action regardless of which gender(s) you or others are attracted to.
You also need to ask yourself as an individual if your actions and words support or compromise the success of your lodge.
At the end of the day, co-freemasonry copes with this issue of couples in the one lodge and you need to have some faith that we would likewise cope with challenges other organizations meet and overcome.. it all comes back to fear about what *might* happen if "a couple" cause conflict in a lodge. Such differences need to be resolved using masonic values and means.
God knows, I often could not sit in lodge with my partner because we are at variance, if I was gay and hence my male partner could join, I'm not sure I would want my partner in the same lodge LOL......
I wonder if there are any gay bros reading this thread. If you are, then you are still my brother equal with all others... but I wonder, would you want your partner in your lodge ?