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Freemasons can't date?

Rifleman1776

Registered User
Some obligations do prohibit sexual activity between a MM and the wife, widow or daughter of another MM. Pretty broad and restrictive, IMHO. In fact, many of our social activities revolve around other Brothers and their spouses. If the Brother passes, it is only natural that a single MM friend might start dating the widow and eventually have relations with her. I see no wrong in this.
 

CLewey44

Registered User
Some obligations do prohibit sexual activity between a MM and the wife, widow or daughter of another MM. Pretty broad and restrictive, IMHO. In fact, many of our social activities revolve around other Brothers and their spouses. If the Brother passes, it is only natural that a single MM friend might start dating the widow and eventually have relations with her. I see no wrong in this.

I agree, I would rather my widowed wife be with a good, honest person than not and most Masons are such. Same with someone dating my daughter, I would be confident that a fellow MM would have at least a half-way decent moral compass.
 

Symthrell

Registered User
Some obligations do prohibit sexual activity between a MM and the wife, widow or daughter of another MM. Pretty broad and restrictive, IMHO. In fact, many of our social activities revolve around other Brothers and their spouses.

We had a situation where a young man going through the MM training for learning his obligations at our lodge announced he could not be a mason to his coach. The coach looked at him and asked why. He blushed and said he was dating the adult daughter of a member of our lodge and that they were expecting a child but weren't married. His coach asked him if they were planning to marry and he said they were. He asked if the young lady's father objected to their relationship and the answer was no. His coach told him he would be okay and that was the end of it. Well kind of, people still had fun giving him a hardtime about it for a bit. They are happily married and have a wonderful baby boy!
 

Capricornguy

Registered User
I meant can I get a tinder account and "play the field". Or would it be weird if I brought a different date to every gathering or party where you can bring someone?
 

Glen Cook

G A Cook
Site Benefactor
I meant can I get a tinder account and "play the field". Or would it be weird if I brought a different date to every gathering or party where you can bring someone?
Think about whether it’s going to be a great date for a casual relationship.

I question whether, even in the US, you will have that many occasions to take someone to events.
 

dfreybur

Premium Member
I meant can I get a tinder account and "play the field". Or would it be weird if I brought a different date to every gathering or party where you can bring someone?

Early when I was dating my wife it became time to meet each other's families. Since my relatives were across the continent I took her to lodge to meet my adoptive kinfolk. It was the February family dinner with the theme of wives and fiancees.

Do you really want to take a casual date to meet your family? That is EXACTLY what it means to take a date to lodge. Unless you are serious, don't bring her.

Pay attention to the lessons taught to you in your degrees.
 

hanzosbm

Premium Member
I meant can I get a tinder account and "play the field". Or would it be weird if I brought a different date to every gathering or party where you can bring someone?
Etiquette on when to bring a date to an event or not aside, when it comes to playing the field, there are no rules against it. We are taught to live moral lives, but the definition of that is up to each man. For some men, that might go to the extremes of celibacy. For others, internet broadcast gangbangs are fair game. Again, we are taught to be moral, and while there are nuances within the degrees that one could use to argue the moral line to the left or right, ultimately, it's up to you and what you feel is morally upright behavior.
 

Warrior1256

Site Benefactor
Do you really want to take a casual date to meet your family? That is EXACTLY what it means to take a date to lodge. Unless you are serious, don't bring her.
Well, If I were single and there was an open dinner, like for officer installation, I really wouldn't see the problem with bringing a casual date.
 

Capricornguy

Registered User
I wouldn't bring a casual date to a meeting. I'd bring a long term person but I'm just curious if you guys look down on dating around.

I'm a young not trying to get married anytime soon. Not opposed it but I want to see the world.
 

juscurious1

Registered User
Just giving you all a heads up there were some posts years back in regards to a Ricardo Wells aka Rick Wells perpetrating as a mason.He is not a good guy and it appears he is in Austin representing masons horribly. His Facebook is Rick Django Wells, forewarned is forearmed beware of the perpetrators
 

jgil1970

Registered User
Some obligations do prohibit sexual activity between a MM and the wife, widow or daughter of another MM. Pretty broad and restrictive, IMHO. In fact, many of our social activities revolve around other Brothers and their spouses. If the Brother passes, it is only natural that a single MM friend might start dating the widow and eventually have relations with her. I see no wrong in this.

I believe the key is unlawful, so 2 consenting, otherwise unattached adults are good.
 

Keith C

Registered User
I was considering taking a date to my Lodge's "Ladies Appreciation banquet" last year, but then my wife wanted to go so I brought her! :D

I think I should have went with the date, since now I have to attend her OES chapter Worthy Matron's banquet and it is a "Dress in the style of your favorite decade" theme. I loath "dress up" parties. I wonder if the 1770's would be acceptable as my favorite decade?
 
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