Freemasons can't date?

Discussion in 'General Freemasonry Discussion' started by Capricornguy, Mar 21, 2018.

  1. Rifleman1776

    Rifleman1776 Registered User

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    Some obligations do prohibit sexual activity between a MM and the wife, widow or daughter of another MM. Pretty broad and restrictive, IMHO. In fact, many of our social activities revolve around other Brothers and their spouses. If the Brother passes, it is only natural that a single MM friend might start dating the widow and eventually have relations with her. I see no wrong in this.
     
  2. Warrior1256

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    Yeah, who would have thought, lol.
    Pretty much the way that I see it.
     
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  3. CLewey44

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    I agree, I would rather my widowed wife be with a good, honest person than not and most Masons are such. Same with someone dating my daughter, I would be confident that a fellow MM would have at least a half-way decent moral compass.
     
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  4. Symthrell

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    We had a situation where a young man going through the MM training for learning his obligations at our lodge announced he could not be a mason to his coach. The coach looked at him and asked why. He blushed and said he was dating the adult daughter of a member of our lodge and that they were expecting a child but weren't married. His coach asked him if they were planning to marry and he said they were. He asked if the young lady's father objected to their relationship and the answer was no. His coach told him he would be okay and that was the end of it. Well kind of, people still had fun giving him a hardtime about it for a bit. They are happily married and have a wonderful baby boy!
     
  5. hanzosbm

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    Got pictures? ;)

    Just kidding of course.
     
  6. CLewey44

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    Shes a little underage at this point. Very underage actually.
     
  7. Matt L

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    It's a good thing we can't date, my wife would kill me.
     
  8. Warrior1256

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    Lol....As with my wife yours is kind enough to allow our evening absences to attend to Masonic business. That's asking enough of them.
     
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  9. Capricornguy

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    I meant can I get a tinder account and "play the field". Or would it be weird if I brought a different date to every gathering or party where you can bring someone?
     
  10. Glen Cook

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    Think about whether it’s going to be a great date for a casual relationship.

    I question whether, even in the US, you will have that many occasions to take someone to events.
     
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  11. dfreybur

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    Early when I was dating my wife it became time to meet each other's families. Since my relatives were across the continent I took her to lodge to meet my adoptive kinfolk. It was the February family dinner with the theme of wives and fiancees.

    Do you really want to take a casual date to meet your family? That is EXACTLY what it means to take a date to lodge. Unless you are serious, don't bring her.

    Pay attention to the lessons taught to you in your degrees.
     
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  12. hanzosbm

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    Etiquette on when to bring a date to an event or not aside, when it comes to playing the field, there are no rules against it. We are taught to live moral lives, but the definition of that is up to each man. For some men, that might go to the extremes of celibacy. For others, internet broadcast gangbangs are fair game. Again, we are taught to be moral, and while there are nuances within the degrees that one could use to argue the moral line to the left or right, ultimately, it's up to you and what you feel is morally upright behavior.
     
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  13. Warrior1256

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    Well, If I were single and there was an open dinner, like for officer installation, I really wouldn't see the problem with bringing a casual date.
     
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  14. Capricornguy

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    I wouldn't bring a casual date to a meeting. I'd bring a long term person but I'm just curious if you guys look down on dating around.

    I'm a young not trying to get married anytime soon. Not opposed it but I want to see the world.
     
  15. juscurious1

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    Just giving you all a heads up there were some posts years back in regards to a Ricardo Wells aka Rick Wells perpetrating as a mason.He is not a good guy and it appears he is in Austin representing masons horribly. His Facebook is Rick Django Wells, forewarned is forearmed beware of the perpetrators
     
  16. jgil1970

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    I believe the key is unlawful, so 2 consenting, otherwise unattached adults are good.
     
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  17. jgil1970

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    Lots of Shrine activities are geared toward couples...
     
  18. Warrior1256

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    Same here.
     
  19. Keith C

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    I was considering taking a date to my Lodge's "Ladies Appreciation banquet" last year, but then my wife wanted to go so I brought her! :D

    I think I should have went with the date, since now I have to attend her OES chapter Worthy Matron's banquet and it is a "Dress in the style of your favorite decade" theme. I loath "dress up" parties. I wonder if the 1770's would be acceptable as my favorite decade?
     
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  20. hanzosbm

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    If that's what your jurisdiction uses as the wording the obligation, that's correct. But not all do.
     

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