As for minutes, two thoughts...First, I'm not sure our laws allow furnishing members with copies of the minutes to read at their leisure, unless they are all collected and destroyed after being read. Second, if your lodge is doing interesting things, the minutes are a pleasure to listen to.
As for dress, I recommend you and your friends wear suits to lodge. It will eventually rub off on others.
As for festive board, there is nothing to stop you and your friends from meeting at a nice restaurant before or after the lodge meeting. You can be as formal as you like, and offer toasts to your hearts' content. Unless you for some reason want the lodge to invest money in it, it is a completely voluntary activity, and not really subject to lodge approval. If the master of the lodge doesn't care to participate, an informal master of ceremonies presides.
As for programs, I find it hard to imagine that a master would turn down volunteers who wanted to present programs at lodge. The thing to keep in mind is that you have to consider your audience. People come from lodges all around to hear my programs, because I tell them interesting things they didn't know, or inspire them about their masonry. What I don't do is make them listen to a lecture on something I'm fascinated by but is completely outside their frame of reference. That requires being personally familiar with your brothers...what a concept!
As for ritual, instead of looking for new ceremonies to splice on to ours, start looking for ways to improve our initiations within the framework we already have. Lots of lodges "forget" to provide the preperatory readings to the candidate, or deliver the monitorial talk before the EA degree, or if they do deliver it, it is as an afterthought, without even looking at it before it is time to read it. What condition is your preparation room? Ours had become a sort of closet for storing excess chairs. I bet anyone could make a significant improvement on the preparation room without needing to install a skull or paint a chicken on the wall. What is the condition of the candidate's costume? Ritual solemnity, in my experience, results from ten percent attitude, and ninety percent proficiency and practice. Wanting it doesn't make it happen. We talk about "ritual excellence" being part of the model, but I have observed that in Texas, that does not mean doing a more complete ritual, with the monitorial parts, but rather it means that the officers are wearing tuxedos. Tell me which has more impact on the candidate.
If you want to see the TO model of "masonic formation", you had better have a C certificate before you speak to me about it. Mentoring new members as they learn about masonry is more than just teaching the memorization, but that is an indispensable part. The memorization is a framework for teaching the deeper truths. If you're not dedicated to the project enough to become qualified to teach the candiates their catechism, I submit that you haven't got the right to tell people how "masonic formation" ought to be done.