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Dating site and dating in general

Glen Cook

G A Cook
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Wait! I'm not saying join the lodge. I'm saying go down to the lodge building while they're not having meetings, like during and before dinner and volunteer to help support it. That is, if you like what you see on the menu at dinner time ;-)
My very much personal, grumpy old man view, is that if an unknown woman showed up at the lodge hall offering to help out, it would seem weird
 

melinda

Registered User
Again, was just question in general that seems to have humored a lot of people. Besides I am a volunteer already so wouldn't be that stange.... ANYHOW it's not why I joined here and I am far from looking for someone, just got out of a physical and emotional abusive relationship over Christmas so not wanting to worry about it now.
 

Warrior1256

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Again, was just question in general that seems to have humored a lot of people. Besides I am a volunteer already so wouldn't be that stange.... ANYHOW it's not why I joined here and I am far from looking for someone, just got out of a physical and emotional abusive relationship over Christmas so not wanting to worry about it now.
Sounds good. Take some time off and enjoy the single life.
 

Glen Cook

G A Cook
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Again, was just question in general that seems to have humored a lot of people. Besides I am a volunteer already so wouldn't be that stange.... ANYHOW it's not why I joined here and I am far from looking for someone, just got out of a physical and emotional abusive relationship over Christmas so not wanting to worry about it now.
A good time to make a new start
 

MontanaSkyline

Registered User
Yeah, figuring out who I am and what I want, focusing on OES, and helping out my local lodge for now.
I just stumbled onto this website (maybe a little too late for this conversation) as I was looking for exactly what Linda was proposing. Honorable men are very hard to find, and dating websites attract the lowest common denominator. I'm chuckling at the response to "Go to your local lodge and find a man." I can say very emphatically that a woman of honor would not in a million years go to a lodge with the intent of picking up a man. Most ladies are not so bold with their intentions as they still believe in chivalry while the world seems to have moved on, which leads us back to the need for a dating website dedicated to men and women of honor and faith. meLinda, please start that dating website!
 

David612

Registered User
Yes. It's called your local lodge.
Ummm to each there own but when I’m at lodge that’s not what I’m looking for...
Thing is that from my understanding many get involved with OES with their partners so it may not be a great place to meet people, that said work your craft, make friends and you never know where friendships lead, people know people and people met through Lodge connections are probably going to be a bit better than Joe Shmoe off the street.
Not helpful I know but just my 2c.
-D
 

Bloke

Premium Member
Welcome :)

....Honorable men are very hard to find.....

It's often not easy being one either :)

Relationships can he hard, messy and complex things. I wonder if any Brother would be keen to link the reputation of Freemasonry to dating, but in a vacuum it does sound like a good idea.

Word of advice though. Just because a man says he's a Freemason does not make him one. Even if a Freemason, that alone does not make him a good man - we do have bad apples.

If my niece said she was dating a Freemason, I'd be pleased, but I'd also be interested if he was just a member or lived the values. Such a situation is probably the only situation where I'd make some inquiries - looking for double protection against my niece and the reputation of Freemasonry.
 

MontanaSkyline

Registered User
I was brought up living the values of honor and loyalty that I learned from my father and his father and his father, etc. If I were a man, I would be a mason. Unfortunately, the family line ends with me and my daughter and we are locked out of the organization due to our gender. I have no wish to be a Mason, mind you. I simply find it unfortunate that women of honor are set adrift in a world full of ordinary men who don't even try to live those values. There's something missing in the code of chivalry in this modern world when the value of honor is only recognized in men. And yes, I attended Rainbow girls and didn't find an ounce of honor among my peers. There was no guidance for female virtue other than being chaste and I find that to be a shame as well. The Masons have many secrets that I do not wish to know, but the code of chivalry is not a secret and applies to both men and women. Once learned, good luck trying to find a spouse who understands those standards, let alone lives them. That... is why a dating website makes sense. But, you are right. It wouldn't work. Because no Freemason would dare risk the name of the organization for a date unless he was a bad apple, and there is no way to discern the character or intentions of the women who might answer.

Welcome :)
Word of advice though. Just because a man says he's a Freemason does not make him one. Even if a Freemason, that alone does not make him a good man - we do have bad apples.
 

Glen Cook

G A Cook
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I was brought up living the values of honor and loyalty that I learned from my father and his father and his father, etc. If I were a man, I would be a mason. Unfortunately, the family line ends with me and my daughter and we are locked out of the organization due to our gender. I have no wish to be a Mason, mind you. I simply find it unfortunate that women of honor are set adrift in a world full of ordinary men who don't even try to live those values. There's something missing in the code of chivalry in this modern world when the value of honor is only recognized in men. And yes, I attended Rainbow girls and didn't find an ounce of honor among my peers. There was no guidance for female virtue other than being chaste and I find that to be a shame as well. The Masons have many secrets that I do not wish to know, but the code of chivalry is not a secret and applies to both men and women. Once learned, good luck trying to find a spouse who understands those standards, let alone lives them. That... is why a dating website makes sense. But, you are right. It wouldn't work. Because no Freemason would dare risk the name of the organization for a date unless he was a bad apple, and there is no way to discern the character or intentions of the women who might answer.
Oh, I don’t think the value of honor is only recognized in men.

The only secrets Masons have are modes of recognition. Those don’t confer or teach honor. Our third degree is built around a lesson of honor, but I happily relate that narrative. The story of Job, to me, is a lesson of honor, and is open to female family of Masons.

There is also OES and even feminine Masonry.
 
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