I think if a wife has a problem with her husband attending lodge two or three times a month , there are bigger issues at play . I find it unhealthy for my wife and I to be up each others butts 24/7 . We need our outside interests that does NOT include one another to keep our marriage healthy . and I am at one lodge or another several times a month . If she want me to to come home early , I will leave lodge early or I will not go at all . BUT , I do not put lodge before her needs in that if she has plans for us , I will skip a Masonic function like tonight , I was asked to help out with a sister lodge's degree work but she has plans so i told the lodge no . The one thing I will say is , the wife and I love one another , but we do not dictate when and where each other goes . We may be married , but we do not own one another . We need our "me time" away from one another .
As for the ring . I have never understood men and/or their wives getting upset over it's removal for a couple of hours , in a room full of men . I was not allowed to wear mine on the job due to the danger of losing a finger . My wedding band does not prove my love and dedication to my wife , no , that would be our 18 year marriage of love and devotion .