Etiquette for a non-member

Discussion in 'Frequently Asked Questions' started by Mark Petro, Apr 16, 2018.

  1. Mark Petro

    Mark Petro Registered User

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    I have never been to a masonic lodge, but have been invited by the worshipful master to attend the next lodge meeting. How should a non-member address those members of The Lodge? I don't want to make the stupid newbie mistake.

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  2. hfmm97

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    Just say “sir” or “mister” or the name of the brother. Save “brother” until after you are initiated


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  3. CLewey44

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    Dress your best. Dark suit and tie if you can unless told otherwise. If not sure always overdress vs. underdress. I would just address them how they introduce themselves. If they say "Hi I'm John." Just call them John. I always say sir just out of respect to folks especially if I don' know their name. They aren't any better of a person than you and vice-versa. :)
     
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  4. Mark Petro

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    I received a call this evening from the lodge, and it was the worshipful master. He introduced himself by first name, and he agreed on the dress of a suit and tie. I actually thought as such.

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  7. Bloke

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    Golden Rule - be polite.

    You're question is really good, I would just put it to those present. If you were out with me and our Grand Master (head of all the Freemasons in the State) I'd bet $5 he introduce himself as Keith and nothing more grandiose; but just ask - exactly as you have done here.
     
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  8. Warrior1256

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    Good advice from all. When I decided that I wanted to join I called a friend of over twenty five years who at that time was a Deputy District Grand Master. I asked him what I should do at this first meeting. His advice? "Just act like you have some sense". Lol.
     
  9. CLewey44

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    Omg, exactly lololol. Just act like you got some sense....period. I've seen one or two clowns come in before meetings to eat dinner that were so out there we were all 'eye-cutting' at each other like, "who is this fool???"
     
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  10. Bloke

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    GOLD !
     
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  11. Rifleman1776

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    In most jurisdictions this is unheard of. Non-members simply do not get into a (tiled) Lodge meeting. And, dress varies depending on local customs. I have never seen a suit worn in Lodge. Where are you?
     
  12. hfmm97

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    Bro, I’m pretty sure that what is referred to is the dinner before the meeting


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  13. Mark Petro

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    Yes, exactly. Not the actual meeting. I am in El Paso, Texas.
     
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  14. Warrior1256

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    Lol!
     
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  15. Warrior1256

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    Here in the Louisville area I have seen numerous Brothers wear suits / sports coat and tie to the lodge meetings. I do this myself. Some lodges require the officers to wear coat and tie.
     
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  16. hfmm97

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    I’m in Houston I wear a jacket and tie to my lodge stated meetings: at other lodges depends if routine or special (like a Masonic Grand officer visit) meeting


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  17. Keith C

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    You must not travel much.

    Here in PA a suit and tie is the standard dress for the sidelines, Officers are to wear Tails.
     
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  18. Warrior1256

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    I know of at least one lodge here in Louisville that requires the officers to hear tuxedos during the officer installation.
     
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  19. CLewey44

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    I think he meant to visit a lodge before a meeting. Maybe during the dinner beforehand to meet some of the members. Many lodges are trying to move towards at least coat and tie, even suits and tuxedos are becoming more common.
     
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  20. Mark Petro

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    I never meant to start an argument between you guys.

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