What to tell friends

Discussion in 'General Freemasonry Discussion' started by Wheatfarmer, Jan 7, 2016.

  1. Wheatfarmer

    Wheatfarmer Registered User

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    hello brothers I am just curious what you all tell your friends or neighbours when u have lodge
     
  2. dfreybur

    dfreybur Premium Member

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    "I have lodge tonight. I have told you there are never any invitations so you have to ask, haven't I?"
     
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  3. Wheatfarmer

    Wheatfarmer Registered User

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    Sorry to elaborate but I just never asked , I'm not sure how out there I should be .?
     
  4. coachn

    coachn Coach John S. Nagy Premium Member

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    Nothing, unless they ask me why I am all dressed up and carrying my musical equipment. Then I tell them I am going out to play some music.
    Great question. On a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being a Hermit and 10 being a Jehovah's Witness, how out there do you want to be?
     
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  5. Brother JC

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    I have to change at work often and I told my coworkers "I'm a Mason." That was pretty much the end of it, depending on the maturity level of the individual...
     
  6. Wheatfarmer

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    Thanks guys, I have been keeping it to my self , and people wonder why I'm in town at a late hour , never really sure what I should say
     
  7. coachn

    coachn Coach John S. Nagy Premium Member

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    A simple, "Thanks for asking. I had some business to attend to. How about you?" should suffice.
     
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  8. Brother_Steve

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    These were the people(Non-Masons) that knew I was a Mason for the first three years I was a Mason.

    My wife, Mother, Sister, her husband, Father-in-Law and Mother-in-Law.

    Now after three years I finally told my closest two friends of 20+ years.

    No one has to know. You're not obligated to announce to the world that you are a Mason. I wear a ring and will confirm my status without hesitation. I just chose to not 'tell' everyone.

    Edited: My neighbors have not asked me why I'm dressed up. My friends never see me dressed up.

    Monday nights are not a big hangout night with my friends so again, I'm not turning down invites to go to lodge.
     
  9. Wheatfarmer

    Wheatfarmer Registered User

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    Thank you brother Steve , our lodge is on Friday and it tends to raise more questions than not when I say I am busy ,,, always a follow up "well what are you doing" I'm very happy to hear what some others say. It's like you stated I'm proud to be a MM but I am unsure what to say
     
  10. Companion Joe

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    I am very open about my activities with people who "know" me and keep all things pretty close to the vest with everyone else. Anyone I actually talk to, from my wife all the way down to folks I happen to have lunch with, knows I am a Mason.

    For people who know what I am talking about, it's "I have a Lodge/Chapter/Council/Commandery/whatever meeting." For people who don't know one body from another, it's "I have a lodge thing."

    For everyone else, it's "I've got something to do." That wouldn't change if it was lodge or going to Walmart.
     
  11. Bill Lins

    Bill Lins Moderating Staff Staff Member

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    My neighbor is our WM this year. I tell him to get his butt in the truck. :D
     
  12. hanzosbm

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    Similar to the other posters here, I usually tell people who don't know I'm a Mason that I have a meeting to go to. If they ask what kind of meeting, I tell them I'm a Freemason and it's our monthly meeting. Those who do know, I just tell them I'm going to lodge. I don't have a ring, I don't wear shirts, I don't have bumper stickers on my car. My affiliation is my own business, and I generally keep it to myself unless someone asks. I've had one or two...I wouldn't call them 'bad' experiences when people find out I'm a Mason, but more questions and conversation than I was necessarily looking forward to. So, like others have said, I don't lie, but I don't really put it out there.
     
  13. Bloke

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    it depends on the person and the time I have to speak to them.

    If not wanting to engage, I'm off to a meeting. If they ask what sort of meeting I tell them lodge.

    If someone I want to engage with, I tell them straight off I am off to lodge and if they ask what that is, I tell them it is a meeting of Freemasons, the oldest and largest fraternity in the world. If it is some I think should be a mason, I'll speak at length.

    The big thing is your own confidence in dealing with questions. It took me about 6 months to tell the guys I lived with I'd joined. I waited until I was confident I had not joined some weirdo group. I guess I was not secure enough to admit I might have made a mistake until i was sure I had not. I was very open but skeptical when I joined

    That really changed for me was when i became Master of the Lodge. As such, I had the role of speaking on behalf of my members and it lifted my "masonic consciousness", I really and readily began to tell folk I was a Freemason at that point...

    I think the message is do what you are comfortable with without bringing the Craft into disrepute... but also remember, if you are a respected member of your social group, you're a good advertisement for Freemasonry.

    Lot's of guys here are secretive about their membership. One friend was going to stay at another long standing friends. They'd known each other for 20 years. The host gave him his schedule but said on Thursday he had to go out. "Can I come ?" "No" said the friend, it's a monthly meeting of friends I go to. It's a closed group and very dressy and his visitor could not come.. On a hunch, the visitor threw his dinner suit and lodge case into his luggage. Once there, he pressed his host who was evasive but the visitor spotted a lodge case. Five minutes before the host was leaving the guest emerged from his room with a lodge case in hand asking if he happened to likewise had a dinner suit and a grip and word could he come.... LOL..... they'd never told each other they were each a Freemason...
     
  14. flipster

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    I am president of a local noon meeting organization. I was WM last year. Upon making several lodge donations, my picture was in the local small town paper with "Worshipful Master." My boss of 37 years commented loudly as I walked across the floor at the noon meeting (Exchange), "What was that title in the paper, Worshipful Master?" I smiled, and said yes. He was setting with two long time leaders of town who he respects deeply. They are Masons. They looked up and smiled. I got hit with it quite a bit at work, too. I am well liked, and took it all in stride. My boss is a devoted Catholic, and a wonderful Christian. He advised me to avoid the Masons when I joined. He has never made an unkind comment since and I know I have his highest professional regards. However you respond, always put a smile on that kisser when you reply.
     
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  15. acjohnson53

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    It's no secret, especially when u leave the house with ur suit and tie and briefcase, oh on my way to the store..
     
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  17. Travelling Man91

    Travelling Man91 Registered User

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    I typically say "I have a lodge meeting tonight" I really want to use the Oh brother where art tho line " I happen to belong to a certain secret society, I don't think the name has to be mentioned." Lol I haven't found the guts to say it yet
     
  18. BroBook

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    I have a sterling Silver S&C that I had costumed copied 30 years ago I wear it constantly around my neck, I am willing and able to be tried, and I don't entertain foolishness, but as stated say or do whatever floats you boat...
     
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  19. Canadian Paul

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    Often when I was leaving to go to lodge my wife would ask me to purchase some small item (like milk or bread) at a convenience store on the way home. I did it so often that one night the clerk looked at my tuxedo and commented "My, you certainly go to a lot of weddings!"
     
  20. Travelling Man91

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    Bro book I get the reference as being tried, but are you speaking of a guy actually challenging you ?
     

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