If we apply "judge not" in entirety, then let's get rid of investigating committees and balloting. Because we surely judge during both of those.
For me (and I use me, and I here to stress that it these are my opinions and that I don't intend to force my opinions on others), I tend to focus on what I am looking for as a member of an investigative committee.
I'm looking for
stability. Stability of employment is a real plus. Their social life only is interesting to me in terms of that "stability".
In other words, would this gentleman be a burden to our lodge? Financial or otherwise. Are they either gainfully employed or in some way financially independent? If not, are they taking steps (such as school) to make that a priority? Would this man be able to pull his own weight in society? That is a priority.
And, are they a moral man? For me, their sexuality doesn't come into play. I'm more concerned about things like felonious conduct. Would this man consider stealing from a lodge Brother or from the lodge? Would they lie to me or another Brother with impunity? That sort of thing. I want to know if they are
honest.
And, are they a man who takes commitment seriously? Very important to our line of work.
Also - I want men who are open minded. Because we have men of all races, political persuasions and so forth who are Masons.
Stable, honest, committed and open minded - those or the sort of men, that personally speaking, I want.
How they worship, who they sleep with, who they vote for - I really just don't care. It is small stuff, to me. I want a candidate I can trust, who will take his obligation seriously forever, who believes in work, and who I don't have to worry about being a racist or some such. Match those? Welcome aboard, in my opinion.