Questioning My Decision to Become a Mason

Discussion in 'General Freemasonry Discussion' started by Hancock, Nov 23, 2018.

  1. Bloke

    Bloke Premium Member

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    I am sorry for your loss Brother.

    I always say "Brother" is an easy title to get, but a very hard one to truly earn.

    Empathy, compassion and care for all people, especially Freemasons, I believe and practice are critical to being a Freemason - our WM and myself (sec) recently dropped everything to travel and meet with a very distressed FC having a personal melt-down. I think we might have saved his life in meeting him and he was completely distraught and he is now in care working through his issues. The last Brother in my lodge with a terminally ill wife had people calling him and most of the lodge attended to him during the illness and supported at the funeral. I was there when he scattered her ashes. The last terminally ill member of the lodge had a 2 week vigil by lodge members at his bedside, starting at 7 am and the first person rostered on was 90. While your experience is sadly not unique, nor is it universal. After meeting the WM and the departure of our FC, I told our WM that we hear all sorted of amazing stories about Freemasons, and we just created another - that same brother recently wrote (by hand) to our WM and myself thanking us. I think that man will never forget what we did for him as Brother, and I always challenge the current generation to create new stories of the benevolence of Freemasons. All I can say is try to be the Freemason you should be, "What you observe praise-worthy in others you should carefully imitate, and what in them may appear defective you should in yourself amend. " Life can be a hard teacher - but I think in electing on your experience in the context of the line from our ritual I just quoted, perhaps there is a great lesson on how the culture of your lodge should be. Even if your lodge is incapable of that culture, I would encourage you to try to live that way, improving yourself as a man and treating those around you well being the two core ideas in Freemasonry.

    I wish you well for your Third Degree. It will be close to home, but it holds great lessons. Unlike many places in Nth America, where EAs and FCs seem often treated like some sort of probationary period before you become a MM, in our jurisdiction, you're a full member as an EA and we have a great duty to you. It sounds like your lodge members failed in their duty, but I challenge you not to fail in yours, no doubt looking after your wife you have already met one of the greatest trials you can and my heart goes out to you.
     
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  2. Martlet

    Martlet Registered User

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    Not for me. I prefer trying to make things better than when I found them.
     
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  3. David612

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    Yeah it’s a nice idea but in practice if you get everyone just tying to change the lodge into what they want it to be you will just have a lot of infighting nonsense-
    By the OPs report it sounds like he’s the odd man out-
    It would be more pleaseing to align with brethren that share your focus.
     
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  4. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

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    Good advice!
    I, too, have learned A LOT on this site!
     
  5. dfreybur

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    I have seen shriveling lodges saved by young blood. Be the change you seek.

    There's something not obvious about the Masonic plan to make good men better. It's not even that we don't discuss how it happens nor that many of us have no idea how it happens. It's that it's up to each one of us. Individual initiative.

    YOU do that starting now. Start by reading the work of others. Move on to presenting your own thoughts.

    A lot of Brothers are here for the fellowship. They become old friends but in time become clicks. It happens and many don't learn to resist it. Being a knife and fork lodge is exactly what they want. These are the men who keep the lights on for whoever shows up and starts doing activities. Every tempt is made with walls and every wall must be made of blocks. These Brothers are those blocks.

    If you want your living stone to be a part of the lodge's ornamentation, be that.
     
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  6. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

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    When I became Master of my home lodge I instituted some changes at opening and closing. One of the old guard told me "We don't do it that way here". My reply? "We do for the next 12 months".
     
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  7. David612

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    I think it’s worth spending some time observing how things operate in the craft-
    In my area for example you have the opportunity to become involved in the board of the temple, involved with the lodge management committee, investigation committees, building committees, masonicare officer and so on however, let’s be real, that’s not freemasonry- it is required for freemasonry to continue and it could be argued that learning administrative skills is making men better but your local school can do that and get you a recognised accreditation too.
    You need to figure out what YOU want from the craft and persue that actively- you will hopefully find brethren who share your interest and expand your circle.
     
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  8. Bloke

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    Exactly. As long as a WM is not trying to bring strippers in, what he says goes. As a member of the "old guard" and a PM, that has usually served us well.... it has lead us down some not-so-great ideas - like a WM talking about education without actually doing it.. but I am a big believer of electing decent WMs and then let them be a WM.... it is why, as Sec, I call them "boss".... mind you I've deal with decisive ones, but never a bossy or a WM who tried to micromanage me... but it will happen... then I will come back and read this post :)
     
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  9. Warrior1256

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    Many thanks to you and all lodge Secretaries! I have always said that a lodge can survive a bad Master as long as they have a good Secretary!
     
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  10. Bill Lins

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    Had to go there, didn't you... ;-) Masonic pin.jpg
     
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  11. CLewey44

    CLewey44 Registered User

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    Looks like the SW has some explaining to do.
     
  12. Glen Cook

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    Ya know, they want better meetings and then they complain. You guys.
     
  13. Bill Lins

    Bill Lins Moderating Staff Staff Member

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    He vouched for her!
     
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  14. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

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    ***snicker snicker***
     
  15. CLewey44

    CLewey44 Registered User

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    This may be a scenario where a woman would be allowed to be present during a stated. There are exceptions to every rule...
     
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  16. Keith C

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    You could easily have a woman do a presentation before opening the Lodge, we have had many presentations by non-Masons in this way. You just have to get the program done first, then open the Lodge and do the business that can only be done in a Tyled Lodge.
     
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  17. CLewey44

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    Thats true too.
     
  18. Warrior1256

    Warrior1256 Site Benefactor

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    Done the same way here.
     
  19. Bloke

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    We do something here called "an open investiture" where non-freemasons come into the lodge and see the investiture of all officers (except the WM which a MM cannot see because it is done in an Installed Board) where the words are unchanged and only signs omitted; my sisters and partner have been in the lodge to see this.... but we close it before they are admitted.
     
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  20. Warrior1256

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    This is the way that officer installations are done in my jurisdiction, including WM, so that family members can attend.
     
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